Since March, my husband I have only spent 35 days together.
At first, he was in boot camp, we saw each other for 4 days graduation weekend.
After boot, he was in training school for roughly 4 months,
we saw each other for 7 days in July
(when we got married!), thanks to the holiday!
When he was done in training school,
he got to come home and then we drove together to his first operational base.
We were together that time for 24 days.
Being separated is hard, but it could be worse.
Thankfully, the only time I didn't get to have constant contact was during boot camp.
The snail mail killed me, but it was over before I knew it.
Sometimes people ask me "how is married life",
I don't really know since we haven't been together for long to experience it.
Or people will ask "is it weird to not see each other",
well obviously it's weird,
imagine not seeing your spouse every day after knowing them for 11+ years and dating for 2.
Usually, I just make a joke about it to make the conversation less weird.
Some of the things that have made it work for us but not may work for others are;
(everyone is different)
- Facetime at least once a week, we would make up a time that was good for both of us, sometimes it would be Saturday at 1PM and the next week it may be Sunday at 4PM.
- Text each other as often as possible even if it is just a quick "good morning".
- Keep each other in the loop of what is going on in your lives, my husband would always let me know when he was having a test so I would text him "good luck today" or "how was your test?" and vice versa.
- Call each other a couple times a week, texting is not the same as having a one on one conversation.
- I sent my husband a care package full of candy for Father's Day from our dog and he sent me flowers for our "month-versary", it doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive, but it reminds them that you are thinking of them while being miles apart.
- Set those count downs! Reminding each other "25 days til we see each other!" can make you both excited.
Hopefully some of these tips help anyone who is in a long distance relationship.
Or someone who knows they will be in one soon.
Just remember, it will be over before you know it, I know it sounds insane but it will.
And, always keep in contact!
XO, J
